Small things matter. Saying “thank you” consists of two small words, however, the impact of those words can be huge. Moreover, thanking someone doesn’t cost you anything and still hearing of such words can be priceless to another person. Also, those two small words can create such positive feelings in another person that he or she starts reflecting more positive feelings and behaviour back to you. Or, when you next time need help from this person, you are more likely to get help as you had “credited the person’s positive emotions account”. Surely, you can thank and give credits by many other words and express the same by your own behaviour. What is more important than the exact words is that you say it from your heart. The more you really mean it the more likely the other person is to value “the credits” you’re providing.
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Release your tension and stress
This year has been amazing in many ways, however, one of the most surprising findings is getting rid of stress as I didn’t do anything special. In fact, l have worked the same way as earlier, and in addition, also studied almost every weekend this year. There are a couple of things that enabled such a great unexpected change.
When studying Meta Medicine I started to learn there is a clear body-mind-emotions connection influencing in every moment. The first real insight I got when understanding that it is possible to consciously let negative feelings to go away. Or, in other words, we can decide ourselves which feelings we carry with us. Sounds quite simply, but didn’t have really thought about that earlier. After becoming aware of this I have been more sensitive to notice when any tiny feelings signalling stress are arriving to my mind and thus being able let go such negative feelings before they get piled and both my mind and body start experiencing stress symptoms.
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Create positive energy by listening
“Sorry, could you repeat, what did you say…?” Hmm. How annoying it is to repeat what you said when knowing a person to whom you talked to just wasn’t paying attention on what you were saying. Or, when you’re trying to get your message through, the other person just constantly misses the point you’re trying to make. In the worst case, the situation leads into an argument in which the two persons simply do not understand each other and if you were a fly on the wall, you might like to give an advice “hey guys just listen first and talk then”.
There are 3 simple steps to become a better listener. Firstly, stop your own hurry and thinking of what next and what message you’re going to bring into a discussion. Secondly, listen what the other person is trying to say. I mean, do not listen only the words but actually the meaning behind those words. You can mentally step into the shoes of the other person to really understand the point. Thirdly, confirm with the other person if you understood the message right.
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